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Breaking up is hard to do

Soul Seeing: In the past year, my relationship with Sugar has turned sour. Sugar and I had a compatible and mutually satisfying relationship since childhood. Like most breakups, this one includes betrayal, sadness and regret.

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Grace, human nature and my three homes

Soul Seeing: For a kid, the dark basement was a scary place. When my dad said, "Tom, run downstairs and get my hammer," the operative word was "run."

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My parents opened the door to the unmerited gift of grace

Soul Seeing: The reward-punishment dynamic was so pervasive in life that the extra jolt of my parents' acceptance for who I was simply felt good, though unnamed and unexplained.

I can't get the institutional church out of my system

Soul Seeing: The institutional part of the Catholic Church that once powerfully attracted me now haunts and hurts me. And this conflict messes with my spiritual life.